Many of us don’t interact with people of other races until college. Virtually immediately, you’re taken out of the protected context of high faculty, and brought right into a world that’s far more numerous and larger than you ever expected. Many people of color find yourself on the receiving finish of questions or comments from others which are well-which means, however usually frustrating and considerably hurtful.

Below you will find some microaggressions which are certain to make a young brown woman need to tear her hair out, in addition to some suggestions for friends who need to help keep her scalp intact.

1. “I do not see race.”

That is virtually all the time meant to be well which means, however saying that you do not see race doesn’t make it magically irrelevant. People of color do not have that privilege – for us, it is something we now have to navigate from the moment we get up until the moment we sleep at night. It is essential that our friends acknowledge this. You’ll be able to’t do this should you fake race doesn’t exist.

2. “However you are not like other black women!”

When my friend circle began to turn out to be more numerous, I might hear this too typically. How have you learnt needless to say that I’m not like other black women? For this to be true you’d need to meet 14% of the population! The media has helped to create a picture of black women that appears monolithic, however, like your eyebrows, you will never meet two black women who’re the same. Also, this statement supposes that there is something exceptional or special about me. There really is not. To be honest, my mom and all of my black women friends are considerably more awesome than I’m, so.

3. “Not everything is about race.”

There are tons of things that are not about race. The truth that yogurt is yummy and is sweet for you has nothing to do with race. The truth that the sky is blue has nothing to do with race. The truth that Oreos are actually sent from heaven has nothing to do with race. I can list lots of of things on the earth that are not about race. So, trust that once we say something is about race, we all know what we’re talking about and aren’t being hypersensitive.

4. “Well, I’m principally black!”

What does that even mean? You’re black since you like hip-hop? No, you’re simply imitating stereotypes that you simply saw on TV. You do not have to be black to relate to me, we in all probability have tons in common already.

5. “I wish I might get as dark as you’re once I tan.”

You should get some SPF 100+ and love the healthy skin you’re in.

6. “Oh my god, I love your (skin/hair/eyes etc)! Are you mixed?”

Black and lovely comes in lots of shades, sizes, and curl patterns. Asking if someone is mixed implies that their attractiveness stems from something aside from blackness, and erases the truth that black people are incredibly numerous and are available from many elements of the world!

7. “My parents aren’t racist, simply old fashioned.”

I’ll pray for his or her evolution. Please don’t invite me to your home for any engagement.

8. “Why is there no White History Month?”

Because by the point I graduated from high faculty I knew the name of the first family who settled in Jamestown and had no clue concerning the black man who invented the stoplight. Or that Shirley Chisholm was the first woman to run for a Democratic presidential seat. Did you? Alrighty then.

9. “Why is hip-hop so violent?”

Why is punk rock so misogynistic? Why is pop music so senseless? Why is country music so mournful? Hip-hop has an extended, dynamic, brilliant history and I can not answer that query without supplying you with the history lesson you did not ask for. Should you’re truly interested, look it up!

10. “Will you teach me the way to twerk?”